My husband is very diligent in doing charity work to help strangers, but he refuses to open his heart to help the person who gave birth to him.

Since becoming a daughter-in-law, my mother-in-law told me about her painful past. 30 years ago, my husband was sick all the time after giving birth, and the family had no money and had to borrow money to live.

Unable to bear the poverty, my father-in-law disappeared, leaving her to raise 3 young children. My mother said that he was a playboy, liked to do easy work that paid a lot, and could not bear the hardship, so he left his family.

Only one month after giving birth, my mother had to carry her baby to sell goods at the market. People sympathized with her and gave her something to eat every day. Despite the hardships, my mother was determined to raise her children to a good education. Because she understood that if she did not study, her children’s future would be as bleak and deadlocked as their parents.

Among the three brothers, my husband is the most successful and filial to his mother. Because he wanted her to live a comfortable and enjoyable old age, after buying a house in the city, he brought his mother from the countryside to take care of her. She has lived with us for 6 years. In life, mother and daughter have had many problems, but no matter what I do or think, I always put filial piety first. Over time, my mother-in-law also respected her daughter-in-law more.

A month ago, my father-in-law suddenly appeared at my door, causing the whole family to have different attitudes. He wanted to return to his wife and children to start over. She accepted to forgive him for everything, now she no longer has the heart to hate, and also wants to see the family complete at the end of her life.

My husband said that he did not have the merit of raising his father, so he did not accept his father back and gave him a few hundred thousand to kick him out of the house. I advised him not to do that and lose his blessings. After all, it was because of him that I had my husband, so let go of the past and be tolerant of my father.

But my husband did not listen to his wife’s advice and kept chasing him out of the house. Looking at his miserable back, I felt so sorry for him. If only he had stayed to help his wife take care of the children and overcome their difficulties, then today would not have happened.

On Friday morning, when we opened the gate to go to work, we were startled to see our father-in-law lying curled up in front of the house. He looked so pitiful, I was about to bring him into the house but my husband forbade me to do so.

He pointed straight to the street and chased him away. At this point, I had to analyze for my husband to understand:

“Every year you spend hundreds of millions to go to the temple and do charity work, are you tolerant of strangers but not open to your parents? You are so narrow-minded, how can you be a good example to teach your children?”

I said that but he was still conservative and hostile towards his father. Before going to work, he forbade him from entering the house. I felt so sorry for him that I rented a temporary room for him to stay in for the day. I don’t know how to say it to make my husband forgive his father?