When I found out that my neighbor was an attractive single woman, I was tactful in caring for and pampering my husband. But in the end, he still had an affair with her behind my back.
I am 27 years old, my husband is over 30. In family relationships, he is always praised as a thoughtful husband who pampers his wife. Living together for so long, we have never argued. Because, if I am angry, he is the one who gives in and tries to make peace.
Outside, my husband is praised as a polite person with a good sense of humor. He has a talent for the arts, so he is the main character in every party. Therefore, he has many friends and many other social relationships.
In contrast to him, I am an introverted and rigidly traditional woman. I do not like parties, do not want to go to crowded places, and do not even like makeup or beauty products.
However, he still reconciles those differences so that the couple can live happily. That made me trust my husband and never doubt his love for me.
Then, one day, my neighbor sold her house and moved away. A few months later, a new person moved in. She was a beautiful woman who had been married before and was currently single.
I don’t know why, but the day she came and greeted us, I suddenly felt uneasy. I saw my husband looking at her with a strange look. I had never seen him look at any woman like that before.
Later, I realized that it was a look of admiration, love and wanting to conquer.
I have to admit, compared to me, she is much more beautiful and elegant. Like my husband, she is talkative, free-spirited and loves the arts. The first time my husband and she talked to each other was when the neighborhood held a year-end party.
Everyone pushed them to go up on stage to sing a duet. After that, they received many compliments and started chatting more on the neighborhood chat group. Every time the neighborhood had a party, my husband and the neighbor were invited to attend and sing for fun.
Because of that, the two of them often met. Sometimes he even went to her house to practice the guitar and sing to prepare for the performances. From singing for fun, the two of them started going to refreshment shops with live music to satisfy their passion.
I began to fear that my husband would fall into the arms of another woman. Knowing that I did not share the same passion as my husband, I tried to make up for him in other ways.
I no longer nagged and asked him to please me like before. Instead, I tried to please him. I tried to satisfy whatever he wanted, in addition to practicing the guitar and singing.
However, all my efforts seemed to be too late. He was infatuated with the beauty and free lifestyle of his neighbor.
He went to sing with her early and came home late. He gradually skipped dinner with me and the children to go sing. He even forgot his wife’s birthday to perform with the neighbor at her friend’s wedding.
I couldn’t stand it anymore so I asked him to give up his ambiguous relationship with the neighbor. But unexpectedly, in the first argument since becoming husband and wife, I received such great pain.
Without beating around the bush, he admitted that he loved the neighbor. He openly told me that they loved each other, had an affair, and crossed the line many times behind my back.
He apologized to me and suggested that we get a civilized divorce so that both of us could be free. According to him, I would not have to endure an unhappy marriage, living with someone who no longer loved me.
As for me, he would escape the life of not being himself. He would not have to endure a boring wife who only knew how to cook and take care of the children, without any interest.
His words hurt me. I bitterly and humiliatedly realized that it was my subjectivity and weakness that had caused him to fall into the arms of another woman.
Should I divorce in a civilized manner so that the children could still receive care and love from their father as he promised?
