My ex-wife often calls my husband to take care of the child because the child is sick all the time, I recently found out that the times he spent the night watching the child with fever were actually to have an affair with the child’s mother.

My husband was awarded hundreds of millions of dong, I was shocked to discover who the money was for

At the end of the year, busy with work and coming home late, the daughter-in-law was shocked by her mother-in-law’s strange actions
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My husband’s first marriage only lasted 3 years. After they divorced, the son lived with his mother; he visited him and took him out on weekends or other holidays. Since getting married, he has provided for the child, the grandparents often send gifts to the child and take him home to visit when they have the means.

Before we got married, seeing them act like that, I was also reassured because I thought I would marry a responsible person, because I knew many men who, after divorce, would avoid their alimony obligations, leaving their ex-wives to fend for themselves.

Also because I respected my husband’s responsibility as a father, I never prevented him from visiting his child or showed any discomfort when I knew he gave his ex-wife more money than the agreed amount. My husband’s stepchild is 5 years old this year, and is weak, so he often gets sick. Many times while my husband was working, he was called home to take the child to the hospital for examination. There was a time when all kinds of examinations could not find the disease, the doctor asked him to be monitored at the hospital for a few days, and he and his ex-wife shared the care.

My husband’s ex-wife is busy with work, and she does not have grandparents nearby to help, so it is normal for her to call the father to come and help when the child is sick. So, many times when my husband and I were having dinner or getting ready for bed, my ex-wife called him over with the reason that the child suddenly vomited or had a high fever, had a stomachache for no apparent reason… I was not happy but still sympathized.

Many days, I waited until almost midnight but still did not see my husband come home; then he called to say that he could not come home because the child was too sick, he had to stay up all night to monitor and take care of him, or he was taking him to the hospital to see what was wrong… So I had to sleep alone. The times when my husband did not come home with the reason of taking care of the child like that became more and more frequent, but I did not know what to do, could I fight with a sick boy?

Actually, I was not completely carefree and actually had doubts about the relationship between my husband and his ex-wife, but then tried to put it aside, afraid that I was being narrow-minded and comparing myself to the child. I told myself that his ex-wife was beautiful, talented, and divorced, why should I pick up the man I had abandoned, that her child was sick and weak… Moreover, my husband and I had a very good relationship, he treated me and my family well, there was nothing to criticize.

But I was also afraid of being turned into a fool, afraid of fire near straw, afraid of old love coming back without invitation, so I kept wondering whether I should follow them or not. Unexpectedly, before I could finish thinking, his ex-wife deliberately revealed their story. She showed me photos, clips of them being intimate, hugging each other, photos of a warm family of three over there, and said that she and their son were my husband’s true love. It turned out that the boy was not really that sick, the children were just an excuse for my husband to have an illicit relationship with his ex-wife.

I knew that my ex-wife said that because she wanted me to give up out of jealousy, so that she could return to my husband. Although I didn’t want to fall into this trap of separation, I still couldn’t help but clarify with my husband. At first, he denied everything. When I showed him the evidence, he said that he had only fallen once, and that his feelings were shaken because of taking care of the child together. He would never joke about the child’s health or cover up his bad behavior… I suggested a divorce, but he said absolutely not, that he only loved me.

I didn’t know what to think anymore. I no longer trusted my husband. I hated him but still loved him and couldn’t bear to let him go to his ex-wife. But if we didn’t get a divorce, their child would still be there, and the risk of my husband having an affair with his ex-wife would still exist. If we kept this marriage, should I set a condition to limit my visits to my ex-wife’s house, or should I go with them when I needed to see them (I avoided it before because I felt that my presence didn’t make anyone happy, and I also felt annoyed).

My in-laws scolded him and tried to calm me down; They suggested that he adopt the son, and everything would be done under my supervision. I don’t think this is a good idea because the boy’s mother will come and harass me, and I’m not ready to be a stepmother when the relationship between the two parties is so complicated. Please tell me, what is the best solution?