My wife asked me to hand over all my salary but I did not agree. She was upset and said she would divorce if I did not get what I wanted.
After 6 months of marriage, I realized my mistake was not agreeing on financial matters in advance, so now we cannot find common ground.
This year, my wife and I are both 29 years old. We got married after 3 years of dating. During our relationship, we did not have any major conflicts. Everything was smooth, and our relationship was supported by both families.
When we were dating, I was the one who paid for meals and outings because I thought men should do that too, and there was no need to calculate and be too clear with women.
We often shared our income with each other and we both agreed to save money to buy an apartment. She and I are the same age, and our incomes are similar, so the amount of savings we both have is not much different. My parents and my wife’s parents also promised to support a few hundred million more when we bought a house.
Everything was fine until after the wedding, I gave my wife 500 USD a month to spend, not to mention the rent, electricity and water that I had paid.
She was surprised and asked: “Why do you keep so much of the rest?”.
I replied: “I still spend on personal expenses and save to buy a house”. My wife said: “When you buy a house, just give it all to me, put the money in one place. Are you afraid that I will embezzle money that you have to spend your wife’s money like that?” After saying that, she got angry and went into the room.
I tried to explain to my wife. I said, nowadays men no longer give all their money to their wives like in the past, then every day ask their wives for pocket money.
To be fair, we both do the same housework, and I even feel like I have to do more than her. I also received my share of the rent, and the electricity and water bills cost $250. In a house with only two spouses, I only eat dinner, so I gave her $500, which is not a small amount.
I talked for a while, but she didn’t seem to understand. She said, “Where a man puts his money, that’s where his heart is.”
I felt frustrated. Now that I give all my salary to my wife, when I want to give my parents a few million, do I have to ask her for it?
Women always want to be financially independent, they encourage each other to save their secret funds, and then show each other how to collect assets for themselves, in case their husbands cheat, so they have a way out.
So why can’t we men keep money for ourselves after fulfilling our responsibilities to our wives and children?
My wife and I have been cold to each other for 3 months. She was angry and refused to take the 500 USD I gave her. So whoever came home first went to the market, cooked, and spent their own money.
As a married couple, we lived like two strangers sharing a house. She also said that if we couldn’t agree on this, it would be best to get a divorce.
I really didn’t want this situation to continue, but I also didn’t want to give in. After giving her 500 USD and paying the rent, electricity and water, I only had a few million left. What else did she want?
