My wedding is on the verge of falling apart because of an item that seemed like a small detail in the honeymoon suite. The story began when I was preparing for the upcoming wedding, and unintentionally upset my future mother-in-law.

My future wife’s family is financially well-off and places great importance on rituals and traditions. On the other hand, my family is more laid-back and doesn’t focus too much on following traditional customs. All the preparations for the wedding, from choosing the auspicious wedding date to organizing the ceremonies, were handled by her family. My fiancée and I just participated in the simpler tasks, as we didn’t want to burden either side.

When it came time to prepare the honeymoon suite, my future mother-in-law insisted on finding someone to lay down the ceremonial bed sheets, but due to some dissatisfaction with certain requests, she decided to handle it herself. It seemed like a minor issue but turned out to be something very important to my future mother-in-law. After finding the right person to do the task, I never imagined that such an insignificant thing could threaten our wedding.

The issue started when I decided to use an old bed from our family as the bed for the honeymoon suite. This was a precious heirloom bed, given to my parents by my grandfather when they got married. The bed was made of fine wood, solid, and reliable, and it was where I and my siblings grew up. To me, this bed is not just a piece of furniture but a symbol of love and family. However, unexpectedly, it became the reason for my future mother-in-law’s anger.

The person tasked with laying the ceremonial bed sheets entered the room and took a photo of the bed. After seeing the photo, my future mother-in-law became furious. She argued that the bed was not only old but also carried the memories of a failed marriage, making her fear that it would bring bad luck to her daughter’s life. She insisted that our family had no respect for her daughter and had not fully prepared for her new life as a bride.

My future mother-in-law also made it clear that unless I replaced the old bed with a new one, she would not allow her daughter to move in with me. At first, I was confused and anxious. I understood that if I didn’t comply with her wishes, the wedding would be called off, but if I discarded the bed, I felt as though I would be breaking an important part of my family’s heritage.

Despite my efforts to explain the significance of the bed—how it was an heirloom from my family and brought good luck—I couldn’t convince my future mother-in-law. She insisted that I was making excuses and not respecting the old beliefs and customs that were important to her.

Now I am caught in a very difficult situation: should I defend the values of my family and heritage, or should I sacrifice those values to please my mother-in-law and save the wedding? I truly don’t know how to resolve this issue while maintaining my happiness and that of my family.

Marriage is not just about the two people involved; it is also about harmony between both families. But should I give up my family values to gain my mother-in-law’s approval?