After the excitement dies down, all that remains is silence and a sense of loss. Have you ever experienced that feeling after a party? If so, then you may need to look deeper to realize the truth that I am about to tell you below.

When you are over 70, no matter how rich you are, do not invite relatives to your house to eat and drink. That is not stinginess but wisdom in life. Because at that age, people do not need to use meals to please others.

The liveliness of a meal cannot be exchanged for sincere feelings.

Inviting a large group of relatives to a party may seem like a fun event on the surface, but it can actually be fraught with emotional complications. Mr. Zhang’s problem is a prime example.

Mr. Truong started his business at a young age and accumulated a considerable fortune. After retiring, he always liked to invite relatives to his house for parties every holiday season just to keep things lively.

One year, to celebrate his 70th birthday, Mr. Truong invited about 50 relatives to a party at a restaurant. To make the party more solemn, he organized a very generous feast, with many delicacies on the table.

Before the party ended, Mr. Truong heard a few people mumbling behind him: “Mr. Truong just likes to show off, is having money so great? Spending so much money on a birthday party just to get our praise?”

Hearing these words, Mr. Truong could not help but feel down. He had originally only wanted to express his enthusiasm through the party, but unexpectedly, all he received was contempt and bad gossip.

There is a saying on social media: “If you invite people to dinner, they will smile. If you say you have no money, they will turn away faster than turning a page of a book.” This saying is no exception to a group of relatives.

Some people, who may not normally contact you, immediately become enthusiastic when they hear that you are hosting a party. Behind the enthusiasm may not be concern for you, but only interest in the delicious food on the table.

Mr. Liu has a distant cousin who usually never visits him, but whenever he entertains guests, he is always the first to arrive.

At a party not long ago, Mr. Liu wanted to take this opportunity to chat happily with his grandson and build a close relationship. Unexpectedly, from the beginning to the end of the party, this person only had two states: burying his face in his phone or eating, not even saying a word of congratulations to the host.

After finishing eating, this person packed a bag of food and turned to leave. This kind of family affection not only makes people “cold”, but also makes them laugh.

Relationships between people must be based on heart-to-heart empathy, not connected by meals. And then no matter how much money is spent, it is useless.

It is a fact that true love is never maintained by parties.

Writer Yishu once said: “A person’s heart is warm or cold, only when reaching a certain age can one see clearly.”

After years of experience, you will realize that people who are truly good to you never need to be invited to dinner to maintain the relationship. And relationships that need to be maintained by meals are very fragile.

After all, when you are old, the people who really care about you may be just a few children or a few sincere old friends, not a crowd of relatives who only make noise around the dinner table. Money can be spent but love is not cheap. True love is when you need help, someone will hold out a hand to help you up, not a few more drinks.

After 70 years old, wise people will change the way they spend money appropriately.

Investing in good health is the most important thing.

Instead of spending money on treating your less-than-close relatives, use it to improve your quality of life. Buy a comfortable bed, buy healthy supplements, save up to pay for hospital bills when you get sick… all of these things are much more valuable than a noisy party.

Auntie Giang is a wise old lady. On her 75th birthday, she did not hold a party but had a simple dinner with her closest loved ones. She said: “When people get old, what they want is not excitement but peace of mind. I would rather live quietly than spend money on fake excitement.”

The simpler life, the happier

Many older people often think that only when family members gather together can a family be called happy. In fact, true happiness does not come from gatherings but from a peaceful heart.

After 70, spending time and energy on people who love you, on people who deserve it, is more important than anything else. So at the end of your life, learning to value your time and money, learning to stay away from relationships that are exciting on the outside but fake on the inside is what will benefit you the most.