Husband Favors His Mother and Neglects His Father, I Decided to Use $40,000 to Teach Him and the Children a Priceless Lesson

Why does my husband always prioritize his mother and never show any respect for his father?

Husband Suggested Selling Our House to Pay for His Father’s Cancer Treatment

On New Year’s Eve, my husband suddenly disappeared. The next morning, he returned with a truth he had hidden for three years.

Spent $400,000 to Build a House, a Few Years Later the Land Value Skyrocketed Several Fold, and My Mother-in-Law Came Up with an Idea That Made Me Furious

When I learned that my boyfriend’s income was much lower than mine, my parents strongly opposed the relationship. My father advised me to marry someone from the same social level so that we could be on the same page and have a stable family. My mother was worried that my boyfriend wouldn’t be able to provide for me and our future children, since he barely made enough for himself. The family would only be happy if the husband earned more than the wife.

Back then, I was young and didn’t understand much about life. I always put love first, and my parents’ advice was like a buzzing mosquito in my ears—I didn’t pay attention to any of it. But now that I’m married, I realize how much their words are influencing our life.

I earn $20,000 a month, while my husband only makes $4000. Right after we got married, my husband brought up the issue of his low salary and asked if he could keep his income for himself and take care of his side of the family. He wanted me to handle all the expenses for food, housing, and raising the children.

At that time, I loved him dearly, and without children and financial concerns, I happily agreed to his wishes.

But as the children were born, family expenses grew, and his salary didn’t increase, so I became stricter with him. I demanded that he give me his entire salary every month, only allowing him to keep $400 for breakfast and gas. At first, he sulked, skipped meals, and slept in another room, but I told him that if he didn’t agree, I would divorce him.

At this point, he truly feared losing me, so he obediently handed over his salary each month without complaining.

Husband Planned to Use $5000 of His New Year’s Bonus to Give His Grandmother, I Agreed, But Then Said Something That Made Him Reconsider

My mother-in-law earns $4000 a month, while my father-in-law has no income. He’s 75 years old and still works part-time to help contribute to the household. If he doesn’t bring in money for the month, my mother-in-law criticizes him harshly. I feel sorry for him, so every New Year, I give him a few hundred dollars to help him out.

The other day, my husband told me that his company would be giving a month’s salary as a bonus this year. He planned to give $5000 of it to his grandmother. I asked why he didn’t give anything to his grandfather, who also needed help.

He replied indifferently that it was because his grandmother paid for his education, so he felt responsible to give her money, while his grandfather never gave him anything, so he didn’t owe him any gratitude.

Hearing this, I felt a tightness in my chest, but I nodded in agreement with his decision. If he gave his bonus to his grandmother, I would use $40,000 of my own bonus to give to his grandfather.

My husband was surprised by my sudden generosity toward his grandfather. I told him that his grandfather’s life now would be a reflection of his future. I didn’t want to witness a scenario where our children treated their father poorly one day. That’s why I felt it was important to treat my father-in-law well so that my husband and our children could learn from it.

My words seemed to make my husband realize his mistake, and he promised to give me his entire bonus. He also made plans to give his father a large sum for his retirement so that he wouldn’t have to continue working hard in his old age. But we were still unsure whether to give him a lump sum or send him a small amount monthly.